By Ustaz Mark Bang
Here are 7 key lessons parents need to carry on with if they really want their child to better person in future, please the future of your own child matters.
- The Importance of Self-Reflection: emphasizes the need for parents to reflect on their own childhood experiences and how these influence their parenting. Understanding your own upbringing can help you break negative cycles and become a more conscious parent.
- Emotional Regulation: Parents must learn to manage their own emotions to better support their children. By modelling emotional regulation, parents teach children how to handle their feelings in healthy ways.
- The Power of Connection: Building a strong, empathetic connection with your child is fundamental. Perry advises spending quality time with your children, actively listening, and showing genuine interest in their lives to foster a deep bond. Understanding
- Behavior as Communication: Children’s behaviour often reflects unmet needs or unexpressed emotions. Instead of viewing misbehaviour as a challenge, parents should try to understand what their children is trying to communicate through their actions.
- The Impact of Parental Attunement: Being attuned to your child’s needs and feelings is crucial. This involves being present and responsive, which helps children feel secure and understood.
- Setting Boundaries with Empathy: While it’s important to set limits, doing so with empathy helps maintain the parent-child relationship. Perry suggests explaining the reasons behind rules and being compassionate while enforcing them.
- Encouraging Independence: Parents should support their children in becoming independent by allowing them to make choices and learn from their experiences. This builds confidence and resilience. These lessons collectively underscore the importance of mindful, empathetic, and reflective parenting, aimed at fostering strong, healthy relationships with children.
I always get surprised whenever I visit colleges and universities. It’s like these microcosms have turned into places where little girls go to practise ‘wifely functions! Whenever I visit some boys’ dormitories, I get disappointed to find that it is now common for a girl to live with a boyfriend/coursemate. It is now common for her lover to give her the popular compliment ‘You look sexy my gal’ and she would gladly reply ‘Thank you, honey, with a flirty voice and a romantic smile.
And they are aiming for the next best couple award for the session by the departmental association. So, the girl needs to live with him to prepare along. What nonsense! It seems that some girls suddenly lose their senses immediately after they gain admission. I’ve seen that some of them have no more sense of caution, honour, and dignity. They would change their wardrobes and acquire a new set of make-up just to look sexy enough for the guys. In months, they would start sleeping around with boys. I mean boys who collect pocket money from their uncles! Hey! I want you to know that you were sent to school to obtain a certificate, diploma/degree, not a disease.
The campus is called a school; school not sex! You are on campus to receive education, not useless and senseless things like dating or modelling. You are there to master the use of a pen not the pleasures of the body. Wake up, girl! Do some thinking. Your future is greater than the ‘best couple award’ you give your virginity to a boy who contributes nothing to you. Let’s make this world a better place. Don’t take your parent’s efforts for granted.
There is something our people need to put in their calculations, you have set yourself time to monitor your own child whether a boy or a girl. Most of our young children carry empty bags pretending to have collected books you yet nothing even in their bags. They sometimes end up not reaching school and later claim to be at school, you one day try to follow your child and whether she/he is at school believe me you would be surprised that your child hadn’t reached school. Many children carry no uniforms and when they reach far from homes the go corners. You know what all children aren’t the same, yes! Some good children really need to learn whether at home or school, they both listen to you and their teachers. Please it matters to be serious in checking up on a regular basis whether one is following her/his studies or not and if not, just take your time visiting the school to give full responsibility to the administration so that much of the work is done, never also hesitate to check her/his book at that little time though it’s dead hours please try to so. Thanks for reading. “Public Staunchest Ally “
The writer of this article is a Human rights activist, writer and professional teacher.