By Ustaz Mark Bang
Some people will never be successful in life because they give up and quit way too soon. You have to know that a winner will never quit and a quitter will never win.
And the reason people quit is that they don’t see any hope in reaching their goals if they continue on. They lose hope and interest in their plan, and that is why they choose to abandon their project and do something else. Never let this happen to you. Don’t give up UNTIL you try everything else. And of course, if you do all you can, you will be successful. Humans have climbed the highest peak in the planet, they have invented smart and powerful devices that allow people to connect with each other across the continents, and they have also traveled to space and landed on the moon. So, what makes you think that you have tried everything else or that you can’t achieve your goals? Before you give up on your goals and dreams, think about why you started in the first place. Plus, think about how far you have come. Do you know that the moment you quit, it means that you’re going to waste all the previous effort and time you’ve invested in? In addition, you shouldn’t expect success is going to come your way in the first attempt. You have to understand that most of the time, you will have to fight more than once to win the battle.
Michael Jordan said that he lost again, and again, and again, and that is why he succeeded. Things may not be going to be smooth and things may not work out as you expected. However, that doesn’t mean you should give up. More importantly, have faith in your plan and vision. Constantly remind yourself of your purpose and focus on the rewards you want. When you’re feeling down and no motivation, use these 15 tips to increase your motivation back up again.
Why do some people never succeed in life despite trying their best and working hard? Imagine people as dices. One, two,…, five, and sixes. Let’s call the lowest them all, the ones, as losers. How do people land as one? Well, some losers got unlucky on their first roll, and stayed as is, never re-rolled. If they had not been so unlucky so early on, perhaps they would be a six today, or some average folk. Think of people born in unprivileged regions, those with disabilities, childhood traumas, early accidents, etc.
Some losers were not always a loser. At some point they might have been a high five or six. They became a loser after one unfortunate incident or series of bad rolls. Think of many homeless people who were once a normal citizen, successful business men gone bankrupt, etc. A percentage of losers were just chronically unlucky. There are people among us who try as much or harder, but statistically speaking the luck has not been in their favor. They keep re-rolling ones. In today’s society, we give a lot of credit to a person’s will to change the outcome of his life. I think individuals are part of a greater distribution of society. While each person has the power to steer the wheel of his ship, one should also be humbled by external grand forces such as economy, politics, culture, and new waves bringing constant change. If becoming a six was as straightforward as falling forward, as success gurus want you to believe, we would all get there eventually, and with a decade or two delay. But I think, the reality is more complex than self-authoring your success. We are trained by our social norms to be polite, non-aggressive, compliant, cooperative, and mindful of others needs and more so: mindful of their opinions of us, should we fail to be passively obedient to their social norms. Then there is risk-taking. In any competitive activity, the risk is a given. Yet it requires us to rise above what we are taught. Drones who make society function by avoiding risk, do not feel the same kind of anxiety as those who break free. Their kind of anxiety is conformance anxiety, the kind that can make them feel like a victim, too small to climb out of their elaborately constructed safety hole. The risk-taker feels an anxiety that can look like bravery, a heroic battle against social marginalization, a leader with the willingness to suffer a little extra, for a greater long-term good. It is entirely possible that the desire of so many, to remain in one’s safety-hole, is the reason why America slowly lost its claim to exceptionalism. But, if you are running a country, you can’t have all the rabbits running around willy-nilly, doing whatever they want. You have to keep them scared, by importing loud bangs, violent flags, and mysterious threats. That is, unfortunately, the inevitable capitalist end-game. Those that climb out of their holes and learn to fly freely, end up being the ones who most need a compliant market to provide their income. When you are no longer of the masses but dependent upon them for your continued status, then the masses themselves become your greatest risk.
success is rarely the “equation” that most people seek. More often, it’s that magical combination of being the right person with the right skills in the right place at the right time. Well, all of the above plus recognizing the opportunity, taking the leap, a ton of angst, hard work/execution, and a good measure of luck. After reaching you successful destination, you’ll later tell your story by retrospectively connecting all the “dots”, and people will mistakenly conclude that since A+B+C=D(estination “success”) for you, doing similar will work for them. When things, predictably, don’t work-out the same for them, they assume that they did something wrong, and many will do the number one thing that prevents most people from succeeding- they quit trying.
With rare exception, few people really “know” how to succeed. But those that keep improving (often by learning from prior mistakes), and keep trying (repeat as necessary) are far more likely to eventually get there as opposed to those that choose to quit. So maybe the reason why some people do not know how to succeed is because everyone knows how to quit (and when people don’t know what to do, they often default to doing more of what they know).
So keep fighting the good fight, and even if you never “make it”, you’ll generally still end-up much better-off than the quitters. As the saying goes, there’s not a ton of downside to continually (and effectively) striving to be all that you can Thanks for reading this article. “Public Staunchest Ally”.
The writer of this article is a human rights activist, writer, and professional teacher.