By Ustaz Mark Bang
There is this compulsion of things that makes our lives tough and stressful. Now that you realize and accept that this life is momentary and is going to end with whatever you achieve or don’t achieve, the end result is to perish, you become less agitated.
Now when we compare people around us, their respective situations and glories, we forget to compare that ending, which is going to be the same for all of us. So this comparison, this necessity of proving worth to others, showing people to have their praises for you, which ultimately satisfies your ego, thereby generating a sense of superiority, is the actual cause of suffering.
Let it loose; live for the peace and serenity of life; look towards nature; look at how your priorities change with time and age; see how things that are so important at some point in time become futile at another; this engagement of thoughts with what we see, what we have been told, and what we perceive is the cause of disturbance; reality is only one, and that is the end of the thoughts or death. Death is not bad; it’s a reality check for one to be actually free, but at the same time it bounds people in fear and anxiety as if they will dodge it, which is impossible. Love your life doesn’t mean to love the life that you think is life, but it’s only a wrong perception of yours regarding life. Life is easy and soft; don’t make it rigid with compulsions; things will not be the way you want, but with other external factors playing on, you can only control your thoughts and reactions to the situations. Be conscious enough to value every single moment of your life, be in the moment, and live to the fullest by accepting it to the fullest. Shed the burden of compulsions and walk freely. You love it and will start living what you love, and that is freedom from bondages of thoughts and compulsions.
The people in my life are some of the best people I’ve ever met, which is why they remain in my life. Life is lived by everyone, so why not enjoy it with others too? I love going to school, not for the educational purpose but for the social aspect. Plus, would you not want to live life? This may be getting deep and a bit dark, but once life is over, supposedly it’s over. That’s why we make use of our time here on earth so that once it comes to an end, we can say, “My life was satisfying. I loved every single bit of it.” The meaning of life is to give life meaning. I never hesitate about things in life, because I always think if I don’t, who will? Like if I’m talking to a friend and I want to ask or say something, I think, “Okay, what if they die tomorrow and I never get to ask them again?” Again, a bit dark, but I want to make the most of life. I am pretty young and have no kids yet, but I do have younger brothers. Isn’t the thought of passing down your legacy through your children such a wonderful and pleasant thought? I know kids aren’t for everyone, but everyone’s choices in life are what make us all unique. No one’s life is the exact same as anyone else’s, and there is beauty to that.
I am lucky to have an incredible mentality towards most things. I can feel down from time to time from genuinely sad stuff, but I’m not depressed or suffering from anything, and I’m super grateful for that. If you think life isn’t worth living, please seek help. You were born to live life; never even think of throwing that opportunity away. See a professional and let them help; there’s nothing wrong or embarrassing about it; I’ve done it a few times just for some outside advice! Life is the greatest gift of all. Everything in it is just a joy to experience. I love nature; I love the movement of trees swaying in the wind; I love those blinding summer days; I love the creek of my bed when I wake up in the morning; I love the taste and smell of bacon and toast; I love messaging my friends asking what they’re adventuring with today; I love walks through my town; I love hugging my girlfriend; I love joking with my family; I love all that life has to offer. Everyone should enjoy life; go out and enjoy it! How do I love myself and my life? You might be too engrossed in your schedule, office, and studies, whatever. But keep pursuing at least one favorite hobby of yours. And try not to make it a compulsion. Remember, that’s your hobby, not a 24/7 job. Whenever you feel like it, go up for that. Keep yourself surrounded by people who make you feel better, who are truthful both in appreciation and negative criticism, and who will value what you say. Being the social beings that we are, socialization is a must.
In conclusion, things started well until he realized that he needed to move. The brokerage in question only accepts clients in 18 major European countries. He then opened up a second account and got them to transfer over the ETFs and other positions. All were transferred over apart from one. For some reason, they refused to send one financial instrument, and he needed to sell out and pay thousands in cash. This taught him an important lesson—namely, you need a truly global broker. There are a number of literal tools you can use every day to remind yourself to love yourself and your life. And some of them are highly effective even if you fight them. I was heading to Oregon to spend a week with my lover’s outspoken, activist, lesbian sister that everybody loves, and I mean everybody. She and I had some issues because my partner was super close to her and I was crowding in on her space with him. Needless to say, I was worried.
When I got there, she had these little scraps of paper everywhere in her apartment. You’d open the cupboard and see a little note that you had how do you start to love yourself if you feel like no one really ever has? To me, the most interesting thing about your question is that it reveals that you know what love is. On some level, you know the version of yourself you are when you feel safe, connected, and loved. “Public Staunchest Ally”
The writer of this article is a human rights activist, writer, and professional teacher.